Earlier in the 70s or the 80s it was parents who used to decide about marriages and the kids used to nod and tie the knots. The couple would get to know regarding each other after marriage or lets say even see each other for the first time during the marriage and they had wonderful relationships. They would grow old with each other and enjoy their relationship thoroughly. However in today’s world the scene is that in spite of knowing the person for years or even being in live in relation the couples lack compatibility. The so called matured and straight forward couples lack compatibility and look forward to separation within some time of their marriage.

Relationships are complicated and are confusing, it takes a lot of efforts to maintain and celebrate a relation. A relationship is confusing in itself and with compatibility issues it gets all the more confusing. You are in love but lack compatibility in your relation and this breaks your heart. To fight the compatibility issues you first need to understand the reason of incompatibility and then work on them to do away with them.

As per surveys or relationship counselor the basic reason of clash are intellect, temperament, and life goals. It emphasizes that you do not need to like everything that your partner does but you should try to build interest in their interests. Try to figure out what they like and be supportive of their interests. Money matters could also be a reason of lacking compatibility. Your beliefs around it, ways of spending, managing, investing all could be the reason for differences. Intimacy and relationship goals could also result in differences between the couple. However step by step you need to work on them and sort it out to build a strong compatible relation with your partner.

There are ways to deepen your relation with your partner, and here are they:
1] Accept your partner’s uniqueness: Lets be honest we all had those moments were we desired that a partner should be more thin, beautiful, romantic and so on. Consider your expectations and analyze how realistic they are. Unrealistic expectations leads to frustration and thus compatibility in the relation fails.
2] Devote ten minutes to communicate– Communicate with your partner with deep meaning and this is the basic key to successful relation. Talk about things apart from family, work, kids and chores. Talk about yourself this simple change will infuse your relationship with new spirit and life.

3] Be calm– If your partner is going mad or is being unreasonable just keep your calm. Do not freak out and it will be easier to navigate relationship challenges. If you guys are not on the same page it is acceptable but not understanding each others perspective is not acceptable. Stay calm and understand the horizon that your partner intends to reach out.

4] Agree to disagree– No two people can agree on everything, so it is essential that you learn to agree to things that you disagree to or compromise about them.

Thus the basic key to compatibility is that two people can disagree but still be in a relation.

You need to have a broader mind and accept their hobbies or interests and improve your compatibility. Thus this valentine gift each other the missing essence of compatibility to life your life the fullest.

This post is a part of the blog train that hosted by  The Mum Story and mommyvoyage  We moms share their Love and Relationships, in this month of Love. This is a month long blog train. Hope you enjoy reading it and sharing your valuable opinion..
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32 Responses

  1. Anchal says:

    These are great ideas to improve compatibility. We need to accept our partner’s uniqueness.

  2. Monika Bhatia says:

    Thanks for sharing ???
    Beautiful thought.

  3. arti says:

    beautiful thoughts, couple should have expectations from each other but there should be compatiability and zeal to adjust:)

  4. We as couples are trying so hard to be compatible. Thanks for the tips.

  5. Sarah says:

    Those were some really valuable tips and tricks for a smooth relationship.

  6. Anita Singh says:

    Accha post hai, is subject per abhi tak maine kisi ko likhtey nahi dekha ?
    Points sab acche hai, baat sirf maturity ki hai, respect ki bas itna sjhna hota hai ??

  7. Varsh says:

    I completely believe in ‘Agree to disagree’. That way both partners are happy with their choices without feeling ditched or rejected. These are some good tips.

  8. Nidhi KM says:

    Very valid points to ensure smooth running of any relationship!

  9. Mrinal says:

    Beautiful thoughts… In a relationship communication is very important and so is the fact that we need to accept each other the way we are! Loved your post ?

  10. Ruchi Verma says:

    Each points you shared are really required for great compatibility

  11. These are really good ideas for improving compatibility.

  12. Lipika says:

    Love the idea of your blog …your points are really valid

  13. Priyanka says:

    Understanding these things is very important to lead a peaceful life.

  14. Deepali says:

    Couldn’t agree more!! Agree to disagree keeps us going.

  15. Dr. Pooja Kapoor says:

    I’ve had an broken relationship that was arranged for me by my parents because we felt we were not compatible. So I can totally understand what you mean. This is one of the most important factors to maintain a relationship.

  16. Dr. Deeksha Rana says:

    These all the real kind of expectations that every one should have in marriage irrespective of gender. Thanks for the post dear…it definitely gave me few moments to introspect .

  17. Sagarika says:

    Very nice and realistic post.. enjoyed reading

  18. Sonali Sonawane says:

    That’s really great thoughts,

  19. Dipika Singh says:

    Truly some awesome tips for enhancing the equations with loved ones.

  20. Ananya says:

    Amazing write up! Loved the last point “agree to disagree “.

  21. Megha Jain says:

    Very nice post. I appreciate your thoughts.

  22. Neetal says:

    So well written.. More than love, it should be acceptability of one’s flaws

  23. Manvi says:

    Totally agree with you…Compromise and adjustment are very much important in every relationship…Nice post👍

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