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BEST BIRTHDAY DRESS EVER

Girls are crazy about dresses that is a known fact and the birthday dress has special importance in their life. My daughter who is just a month shy of 4 years was going frantic about her birthday dress and wanted the best dress from the market. Read more

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IS IT TRUE BETIYAAN TOH PARAYA DHAN HOTI HAI IS IT TRUE BETIYAAN TOH PARAYA DHAN HOTI HAI

I have been an account student for more than five years and did my majors in this subject only. Also economics was my favorite subject. Thus a basic rule of the subject is that profit is what matters. It says that all investments should yield returns or you need not invest there. True any common person or uneducated person will also agree to these basic rules. As per the market trends you should invest in any investment or property or capital that yields good profit or belongs to you. All those investments that yield good and profitable results become hot cake and are appreciated by all. Isn’t that true? Where would you put your stake in your property or someone else’s property? I can see you nodding and thinking that am I crazy enough to state all this nonsense and ask such silly questions. You would say even a small kid can understand these basic rules and work accordingly.

All the above conversation is not useless all I want to prove is or state that the age old saying “betiyaan toh paraya dhan hoti hai.” Is either false or the laws of accounts or economics that run the world economy or the betel shop at the corner of your lane is false.

The answer is obvious you cannot dare to say that the laws of economics or accounts cannot be false. Then why are the daughters an exception? Starting with the birth of daughter let us travel the journey and try to visualize that is there any reason for her standing out of the common law? The mother endures the same pain as that of the son, or is there any concession when giving birth to daughters no or did the doctor or the hospital charged you a bit less while delivering the girl child as was so called paraya dhan. No luck, you feed your girl
child when she is hungry as you feed your boy child. Till now there was no difference so the time, money or resources invested is same. Lets not get in the love quotient as all child gets the same love from parents but daughters are more dear and near than the boys, all the love and pampering goes to them or lets say they have the upper hand here. I still remember the interview of David Beckham where he had tears in his eyes while discussing about his little angel. Getting to the education scenario girls or boys get the same education and for the same fees charged(we are not taking in to account those plans of government where to protect girl child or help her progress because of the society’s malpractices) As parents we try to give both our child similar opportunities.

Then why does a daughter stand to be “paraya” and your son be your own. I do not understand why eating at your girl child’s house after her marriage is not taken well or why does a daughter cannot take the responsibility of her parents and prove to a successful investment. A son is deemed to take responsibility of his parents even if does not want to do the same.

In an educated, civilized society if this attitude towards the female child does not end then at any point of time a lady will not get the love and respect that she deserves. We need to get in the gender equality society without any grudges in our mind. A son and daughter both should be your eyes. A daughter is never paraya she is all yours.

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DEAR FAMILY WHY DON’T YOU THINK MY JOB IS AS IMPORTANT AS YOURS…

Of lately I had some free time as my in laws and daughter had gone to visit my brother in laws family and my husband had to suddenly go out of station for his office meeting. I just wanted to spend some quality time with myself before heading for a matinee show. Thus I brewed some coffee for myself and sitting on the window aisle I was reading the newspaper. My favorite addiction that I had to bid adieu because of my super hectic schedule and also lack of time in spite of being a pro at multitasking. Page by page, line by line and sections by sections, I finally reached to section of matrimony.

Ahh! down to down rather all of them stated we need well-educated brides, some went to the extent of asking for convent educated brides or working brides. Irony of life men need to get educated so that they get good job and then marry a nice, beautiful, educated and working lady just to do the chores of the house and in addition if she is working and earning it’s a great show off. Desiring this is not wrong but when the society desires something but does not support it and that is wrong.

We claim equality and agree to the fact that husband and wife in a relation are at equal position. If the husband gets transfer from the job it is a deemed fact that wife will shift with him, but if the same transfer is offered to wife will the man ever shift with him. No, a lady is up the many nights preparing for a project, then gets up in the morning and does all the chores, on the day of presentation gets ready in the crisp shirt and formal pants. As she is about to set her foot out a voice comes do not go to the office as other in law or any other is not feeling well and needs to be taken to the hospital. In the entire family it is the lady who will do the needful, whereas the rest will carry on with their usual jobs. This is sad and like a movie, life does not give you second chances or miracles happen that you get selected for the promotion.

Her job promotions and aspirations are equally important, if there is a necessity or emergency someone else from the family could also take the responsibility. All I feel is that it is your family as much as hers and contribution should come from everyone. As the very base of family is one for all and all for one.

Coming to housewives or as they call stay at home moms. Even she is capable enough of achieving all heights in life but she chose to stay at home for the benefit of everyone in the family. She did not run behind her dreams rather made your dreams hers and contributed towards fulfilling your dreams. So when you ask her to leave that chores of the house to switch to work that is wrong. Her household work or taking care of kids is equally important. Respect her contribution towards the family.

We are in a gender equal society and lets practice this from our homes.

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Will My Vegetarian Child Face Nutritional Deficiencies In Future

We both as a couple are pure vegetarian since we belong to the marwadi community.We have passed on the same values to my daughter. my little one is totally an animal lover and hates when animals are harmed. Additionally, she is also not very fond of the strong smell of all non-vegetarian food. But, I also agree with the fact that vegetarian food diet is not enough to fulfill the child's nutritional requirements in the long run. They may require growth nutrients and minerals which are available only in non-vegetarian food sources.

Ultimately the question Will My Vegetarian Child Face Nutritional Deficiencies In Future rings up in my mind and you may think majority of us grow up being pure vegetation and all are doing good. They why suddenly this question. But, with the time , change in lifestyle and environmental factors the nutritional values of food items are getting low
day by day. We need to pay a hefty amount to buy organic and pesticide- free food, which may or may not be even trustworthy. The vegetarian food available today is no longer fresh and are genetically modified. All this is totally unsafe for the child.

My biggest concern was to ensure the best practice for healthy vegetarian eating in food. I don’t want to force feed my child at the same time I don’t want her to grow up with inadequate nutrient values. I have replaced the
non-vegetarian items with healthy alternatives so that my child does not face any nutritional deficiency in their growing years.

1) Protein
Growing kids require a good amount of protein, the vegetarian food options like cheese, paneer, tofu, soya chunks, curd are a great source of natural protein. They are yummy as well as healthy protein options. Apart from this, you can include legumes, lentils. These are commonly available at Indian households and you can always sneak it into your child’s diet.

2)Calcium
Milk, soya beans, ragi, sunflower seeds etc are loaded with natural calcium sources and are excellent for bone development. They can be easily digested and you can include them in kids diet .

3)Iron
Iron-rich food is extremely important for overall growth and development of the brain and other vital parts. you can include spinach, dates, raisins, ragi into the child's diet to increase their hemoglobin level. Additionally, you can also give fruits like gooseberry, guava to your child they are loaded with Vitamin C and it helps to increase the iron absorption in the body.

4)Vitamin A
Vitamin A is very essential for eyesight and overall vital organ development. Load your kid’s diet with red and yellow bell peppers, carrots, tomato ect. Vitamin A is best to boost the immune system of kids.

5)Omega 3 Fatty Acids
Omega 3 fatty acids are very significant for the brain development.Vegetarian food options like flax seed, walnuts, canola oils are loaded with natural omega 3 fatty acids.

6)Iodine
Iodine is crucial for the mental development especially in kids to avoid health issues like a goiter. you can include natural unflavored yogurt, iodine salt into the meal of your child.

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Surname Is The Priority Of Every Family .Then Why Should The Girl Lose Her Surname For Another Priority

In a country like India, people here are loaded with surnames which they also consider as a status symbol and priority. Surnames are extremely important for almost everything starting from school admission to filling a bank form. Surnames are mandatory. But, post marriage everything changes, a girl gets a new name, family, and surname. If the surname is the priority of every family then why should the girl lose her surname for another priority? People and society cannot impose a girl and her little one to follow the patriarchy. Many parents feel that their child should
get only his fathers surname as it is an ego factor for them.

This is where the tradition of the wife taking her husband’s surname after the marriage has taken . However modern may be the men , they almost impose the new person to attach their surnames along with her names post marriage. It is an untold rule. We always say Surname is the priority of every family.Then why should the girl lose her surname for another priority?

If you are a one who fights for their own rights then here are 3 paths that you can consider when it comes to changing your surname post marriage.

1. Embrace your given surname.
The most easier option is to keep and embrace the given name. You can simple abid the law of social and keep the surname gifted to you during your birth. The wedding is a union for 2 family and people, it has nothing to do with names. You can always carry your birth surname and avoid paper changes at various government and local places.
Another benefit of keeping your surname is, you have created a brand value of yourself. Assume, if you are a famous writer or poet people will obviously know with your birth surname, marriage is just an additional feather on the cape.

2. Add in your spouse name
The traditional name game scenario is to add family surname post- wedding. The surname is the priority of every family.Then why should the girl lose her surname for another priority?But, as a newlywed wife you are entitled to take your husband’s last name.In short, you are married to your husband and not his family. You can also do it out of love towards your spouse, you can change the important papers with your new surname.

3. Include your husband’s family name legally but also maintain your maiden surname professionally
Marriage should be considered as an association of two hearts and family. a girl post marriage must be given all rights to choose her preference regarding the surname.She has all rights to keep her maiden surname. The best possible option will be to get associated with the spouse family surname legally and keep continuing with your maiden surname professionally. This is the sure shot method to address both the families and to keep both the family happy. Having dual names does not mean having dual identities, you can always communicate to your circle of friends and colleagues.

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10 FUN ACTIVITIES AND GAMES FOR CELEBRATING CHILDREN’S DAY AT HOME AND SCHOOL.


14 TH November is approaching and its time to gear up to celebrate Children’s day. I truly believe that each and every day is to be celebrated with our little sun shines, but dedicating a day exclusively for them is wonderful and it was a day that even we used to look forward to, during our childhood days. Lets take a trip down the memory lane and enjoy the fun filled day with our little munchkins.

1] Bake a cake– The kids love to bake a cake and what better start the day with your kitchen filled with the smell of freshly baked cakes. Try some innovative recipes, make a savory cake with the child to surprise the people. The kids can bake a chai cake with salted icing to surprise their dads.

2] Get your dream job– Every child has certain dreams and aspirations ask the kiddo what he or she aspires to become so if possible let them have a dummy session of their desired job. If they wish to

3] Marathon– Provide them a booster on health and importance of fitness regimes. Organize a marathon for a good cause, the main idea should be completing the race and not winning it. Each child should rejoice the feeling of
completing the race.

4] On a picnic– Nothing is better than going on a picnic, the winter has approached and taking a sun bathe in the park can be a wonderful idea. Carry some snacks and games to play at the picnic spot.

5] Visit to some museum– Plan an outing to some famous museum of your city. It would be an educational plus a fun outing for the kids.

6] Visit to some place of worship– Taking them to place of worship will inculcate a good value in them right from their budding phase. The power of prayers and its importance will be understood by the kids and it will help them to relax and distress.

7] A cycling expedition– In the wee hours of morning take kids out in a pollution free and traffic free zone. The fresh air will just freshen up their body and mind and get the day started for them. After the cycling tour just head for some protein packed healthy breakfast. A gift of health and inculcating healthy lifestyle in them will be the greatest gift for the kids.

8] A crafting tour– Get your kids started with some gift making. A recycling or upgrading program will just get them to know the creative side of their personality. They will learn a new art and rejoice at the fact of creating something new and interesting.

9] Dance party– Just groove to some peppy music and get the party started. Tap your feet to latest Bollywood tracks and have fun as you match beats with the kids and learn new moves.

10] Simply talk to them– The kids are exposed to various matters of stress from a very early age. Nuclear families and working parents all of these just leaves them alone. They do not have anyone to deal with their problems, big or small. They cannot share their feelings and talking to them will help them to unfold and open up. They will be able to get comfortable and get their issues resolved.

Small boy talking to his mother

The whole concept of celebrating Children’s day should be that kids have fun in an organic way rather than spending time in useless handful playoff or they should be introduced with few aspects of life.

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Can a daughter-in-law is really a daughter

We often consider marriage as a fresh beginning and an association between 2 families. Especially in India people consider marriage very sacred. Bringing a daughter in law to a family is like bringing a daughter. The new girl is received with lots of love and compassion at the new house. The best part is, she is welcomed to be a part of the beautiful big family. This is the rosy side of the picture but often married girls have this question in mind "Is a daughter in law really a daughter". Does she get the same treatment and independence?Read more

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Yes I am married, But i am a daughter also!

Every year we celebrate the Women’s day we praise her different, roles that of a daughter, sister, friend, wife, daughter in law, mother and many more in the list. However the irony is that we just desire and love to see her being torn in different relations that constitutes her identity.

It is a common saying in the society, during the wedding of the girl that she is raw clay and can be molded as per your likings, but what about the likings of her parents or the principles and values that were instilled in her so far. You desire to turn her in a different person irrespective of the fact how well brought up she was. This can be compared to a situation that you have got a beautiful painting but rather appreciating the efforts and beauty of the painting, you desire to make changes in it and thus you ruin a beautiful painting. I am aware of the fact there are different set of rules for each house but rather changing her just add an additional frame to her. Be the support system for her. Then just like the magic color that changes merely by being touched witness the beautiful changes that she brings in herself to adapt the situation at your place.

We expect her to be available 24×7 for the services of in laws and their extended families but when her parents need her we are reluctant to send her. For once in life realize that they are her parents and she loves them as much as your son loves you. They also expect a bit of love and care in the 2 nd innings of their life. When a mother brings a new life in the world she has to bear the same pain be it a boy or girl. It is the malpractices in the society that brings the difference in perception and thus a boy is celebrated and girl is not. The boy comes with the assurance that he will marry a girl who will take care of his parents in their old age. On the other hand the parents of a girl are sad because she will have been sent to other family were she may be ill treated and her rights and desire to visit her parents will be snatched. One of the major reasons that why female foeticide occurs is not because we love boys more than girls but because we are scared that if we do not have boys our old age will be miserable and lonely. For once we
need to think over the situation and let the girls also be there for her parents. And I would like to add why only daughters and not the son in laws. When the girl can take care of your parents whole heartedly why cannot you be there for her parents fulfilling the role of a son and supporting your wife during the rough times, the way she supported you during your struggle phase.

If you see the situation from the perspective of an outsider does not it anguish you to see the miserable condition of the women, whose different roles had been celebrated. Accept her in your family and not just expect her to be so and so. One moment you want her to be compassionate and caring towards your problems and immediately if her parents are going through the same situation you want her to be ignorant and overlook the situation. Even the computer that has been programmed follows the same solution for same problems and she as a human being who is not equal to computer in matters of decision-making, is expected to behave differently.

Let us truly take the pledge to celebrate womanhood and appreciate and support the different roles that she can play. Let her journey be a smooth one, do not tear her apart let her be a daughter and daughter in law at the same time.

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