The bundle of joy, the precious gift from God our little munchkins! We adore them we wait desperately and anxiously for their arrival. The nine months of the waiting period is filled with baby showers, pregnancy photo shoot, baby moon vacations and the endless fears that the baby is caused no harm. We preserve the stem cells so as to protect our babies from the remote chances of their being affected by diseases. We also make all plans for the safe arrival of our child in this world but do we ever think about their upbringing or the kind of parents we will become to our munchkins?
Ponder over the fact we are just thinking about the bright side, our expectations are sky high we dream of living in a picture perfect life but this is fictitious. Now lets face the real picture or let us admit the ugly picture. As the child enters the world, the mad race begins. Norms are set how that one day or two day child should look or behave. You may think I am exaggerating but stop and rewind to day of the arrival of your childbirth.
The neighbor of your mother in laws sister had a normal delivery so you are bound to have the same. Your child should enter the world through vaginal delivery and if not the first disappointment comes. Then that third cousin of your husband delivered a 3.5 kg child so your child should weigh the same but again a disappointment your child is healthy but weighs only 2.5 kg. The competition is endless the time the child rolls, or starts to teeth or responds or walks and sits, or laughs. A great matter of comparison how the child eats or what the child eats.
We do not enjoy the parenting journey but we live under the continuous fear of lacking behind. The competition worsens when the child enters the world of education. A vicious cycle, competition as of learning one single rhyme or action starts. Your child learned mine also has to learn. A child who cannot understand what does learning means is asked to memorize a number of poems.
All efforts are just to get admission in some elite school of the town. A status symbol in which school your child studies. The best school, the best university, the best degree, the best job, the best salary. We have become obsessed with these thinks that we leave no stone upturned to get there. Rewarding or yelling or beating, all levels of pressure is made on the child to see him excelling in life. The child is small just do not parent the child or up bring him but bring with some love nurture the child.
Trust the capabilities of your child. All children are not same they their own dreams and aspirations. Let the child be himself let him enjoy under your shade. Do not spank him or yell at him, it will only hamper his growth. The child will grow with a slow esteem, a constant fear will encompass him.
It is sad to see this video that has gone viral on the social media, how the mother is brutally hitting and shouting at the child whereas the child is all tears and is try to fight her mom. It is humble request that the future of our country should be brought up with love and care and not yelling. Think and take a wise decision till then,
Happy Parenting!
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Yes… It’s very important to remember that each and every child has their own capability… And they all are different….
We, the parents should guide them in a proper way with lots of love…. But not with anger…!!!
Yelling can lead to depression.
children can be hurt, scared, or sad when their parents yell on them…..
Thanks for such useful information…
Nice post dear.
Very valid point you have shared here about normal delivery lot of peer pressure from the society is there ..love reading your write up
This is such a Powerful post. Many parents compare their child with others and forget to enjoy the beautiful journey of parenting. Every child is special and people know accept the fact
Well said and totally agree ✌
I agree. Yelling at child is not a solution for any problem. Our attitude towards kids will be responsible for their overall development.
Gud yaar alwayz u comes with useful story…thanks
Being strict and yelling is different than comparing your children with others,
the way we nurture is what we are going to get back, points are valid but just discussing what’s wrong in parenting lets make point what is rational in parenting
Patience is the key to parenting and motherhood increases the same
Thanks a ton for sharing such wonderful article with us…really it is hard to write up in the simple language i.r written by you…
Very inspired
Yelling at children will not instead they should be treated lovingly otherwise they will become more stubborn.
I totally agree with the thought. Today’s fast face environment has made everyone to run after success and in fact children are also not spared. I sometimes though that what would be there future if childhood is like that. Let them enjoy their time and childhood. We shouldn’t force them to get them be best. Let them be what they are and what they want to be.
You written very nicely, love your writing. Agreed with you, thanks for sharing.
Nice topic of parenting I so many parents have no idea how to brought up their child only composition with others. Only they saw what things done by others with their children n started to do. Compare with other children but each n every child is special everyone has something different qualities n potential not compare any child with another. Stop yelling n nicely described by Piyankaji
Very true lines. Every child is different so don’t pressure them. Respect their dreams. Love them.
I agree with you. Sometime we forget about our child’s happiness and think about our society. We should love our child’s interest and give them freedom of choice.
I really appreciate your views , every one must read this 🙂
Thanx for sharing
That’s true ,every child is different we should not pressure them for anything and always fulfil their dream
I really like your views 🙂 great post
I will definitely share it with young mom’s I know 🙂
I totally agree with your view point. Sometimes yelling can’t solve everything.
seriously when i saw it hurted me alot… shoulding is not the only way to handle kids…
Parenting is a balacing act.Physical health and kindness both needs us to walk the talk.
These are such useful information and lesser known facta. Loved the write up.
Thanks for writing such lovely post! We should write more about it. All kids cant score 100 in maths. All cant dance well. Parents should understand that every single kid is different, unique creation of God. They should enjoy their life. They should do the things that they want to do. Recently I was watching an inspirational speech, their Prabhu Gaur Gopal Das was explaining what happiness is. Happiness is not a destination, its a journey. We always run for money, fame, degrees and all. But are we happy? As a parent its our responsibility to give the child a better childhood, a childhood that he/she can relish in future.
It’s so maddening to see kids being treated like this by parents. Afterall they are innocent souls and do not deserve such treatment. They need to be dealt with patience and a lot of care.
Its really difficult to not loosemental cool honestly for parents. but at the same time we cannot start putting our pressure on kids. Its like we keep releasing our stress on them
Most of the time we adults take out our own frustrations and angers over our failures on our kids
It is really a serious topic to discuss and every parents should understand this and let their kid to enjoy their childhood in a relish way not in pressure. Awesome write-up
So true, totally agree with your thoughts. Yelling can damage child’s physiology
This is such a wonderful post. A reminder for all of us that our child is unique and we must celebrate his uniqueness. Lovely read!
Yelling is not right , but many times mom has to yelled over child , when they didn’t listen .
Yelling at children also lowers their self confidence.. every child is unique and they should not b compared